Butterfly Effect Coaching https://www.butterflyeffectcoaching.co.uk Butterfly Effect Coaching is a Business Coach, provides Executive Coaching and Personal Coaching Wed, 20 Mar 2019 15:35:23 +0000 en-GB hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=5.1.1 Know Yourself – Save the World https://www.butterflyeffectcoaching.co.uk/blog/know-yourself-save-the-world Wed, 20 Mar 2019 15:08:37 +0000 https://www.butterflyeffectcoaching.co.uk/?p=3671 The post Know Yourself – Save the World appeared first on Butterfly Effect Coaching.

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Emissions are soaring.  The temperature is rising.  All the plastic that has ever been produced still exists today. 

The problem is obvious, and the solutions appear to be, but there’s something in the way.

That thing is the belief that who we are is limited to our bodies. 

We’ve been brought up to look after number one, to compare ourselves to others and to get ahead.  All of this teaches the conditioning of a “separate me”.  This separate self feels isolated and vulnerable, so it seeks security through protecting and promoting itself in a world of separate others.  It values money over community and convenience over the environment.  

This separate self that struggles and strives to be okay is also known as the ego.  The needs of the ego are vast and escalating.  As the world around us progresses, there is a constant belief that we need to keep up or get trampled over.  It’s this insecurity, this belief, that has us turning a blind eye to how much waste comes as a result of our (often totally unnecessary) consumption.  It has us thinking that we can’t make a difference, as we aren’t in control of what power sources are used to supply our energy.  It has us believing that we need to consume the flesh and products of the hugely polluting meat and dairy industry.

It doesn’t matter how much education we get on what this is doing to the planet, it won’t change while insecure selves that believe they need all these things are running the show.  While “looking after number one” seems like a valid behaviour. 

It’s not all bad news.  Small groups of people around the world are learning to understand themselves differently.  To see beyond the limitations of their own body and mind, to the much bigger sense of Self that they are.  This is essential.  We can’t convince a global community to change their habits if we don’t help them to understand that they aren’t their egos.  That they aren’t limited to their bodies.  Without helping them to see that they are something much more. 

With this expanded understanding, the feelings of lack and separation that drive consumption are no longer powerful.  We see through the belief that a new pair of shoes will make us feel good, or that we need to upgrade our car, house etc, every 3 years.  With this understanding, we see that “I am” no more Vicky that I am Rajesh, Sarah or Tallulah.   I am no more 2019 than I am 2119.  Thus the only thing that makes sense is to look after the environment that sustains all of life, with every nation and every generation considered.  Because we are not separate.

Want to know more about how I can help? Drop me a line or give me a call. A successful coaching relationship depends upon a great rapport, so it’s important to talk. I want to get to know you, see inside your world and we can assess how we’d go from there!

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The Source of Stress is Misunderstanding https://www.butterflyeffectcoaching.co.uk/blog/stress-misunderstanding Tue, 12 Mar 2019 18:52:39 +0000 https://www.butterflyeffectcoaching.co.uk/?p=3648 The post The Source of Stress is Misunderstanding appeared first on Butterfly Effect Coaching.

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And the absence of stress comes from a change in understanding, not from changed behaviours or conditions.

The Misunderstanding

Like love, true wellbeing is unconditional.  Yet when it comes to both love and wellbeing, society has taught us to expect certain conditions.  We’ve been taught how much sleep we need, how many hours of work are acceptable, what sort of levels of pressure we can manage before we start to feel stressed.  Yet we’ve all been okay with less sleep and more work than the recommended amounts, we’ve all experienced thriving under pressure, as well as feeling anxious with nothing to do. 

But the conditioning is strong, so we believe it.

If we believe that we need our conditions to be a certain way to prevent stress, then we will feel stressed about meeting this requirement!  We’ll feel stressed about maintaining the right conditions if we already have them, or stressed that we don’t have these perceived ideal conditions if they are lacking.

It all boils down to the misunderstanding that “I need _____________ (fill in the blank) in order for me to be okay”.  You don’t.  And even if you could get the thing that it looks like you need, you’d soon notice something else that’s lacking, and you’d pin your wellbeing to that instead.

Stress is not the result of conditions.  Stress is the condition of believing that your wellbeing is attached to the circumstances of your life.  This is the misunderstanding.

Absence of Stress

In the absence of the misunderstanding, stress is not experienced.  When we aren’t looking in the wrong direction, we find well-being is the essence that pervades.  Why is this the case?

Because Who We Are is already whole.  Who We Are isn’t the ego with its wants and needs.  It’s the Sense of Being that is present in all experience.  This Sense of Being does not have a preference.  It doesn’t have expectations or agendas.  It doesn’t believe that there is a right or wrong way for things to be.  Who We Are does not need anything.  Not even meditation, yoga or a grounding mat.

This is what I show my clients.  I show them that Who They Are is the Sense of Being that is always there.  When we look away from the beliefs of the ego, claiming how things ought to be, we can see that we are not this ego.  We do not need to protect and promote ourselves.  We aren’t even separate/isolated.  We are pure Awareness.  The One Awareness within which everything exists.

Know Who You Are

If you want to resolve stress, knowing Who You Are is the only thing you need on your to-do list. Without this understanding, nothing else helps anyway. Know that you aren’t your ego. Know that you don’t need to be protected or promoted. Know that Who You Are can never not be okay. This is all you need to do. Know yourself.

Want to know more about how I can help? Drop me a line or give me a call. A successful coaching relationship depends upon a great rapport, so it’s important to talk. I want to get to know you, see inside your world and we can assess how we’d go from there!

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Experiment with letting go https://www.butterflyeffectcoaching.co.uk/blog/experiment-with-letting-go Tue, 05 Mar 2019 15:54:22 +0000 https://www.butterflyeffectcoaching.co.uk/?p=3605 The post Experiment with letting go appeared first on Butterfly Effect Coaching.

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What if we’re not this body?

What if we’re not this idea of a separate self called <insert your name>?  What if who we really are is the awareness of the experience of <insert your name>?  What would that mean?!

It would be that <insert your name> can let go.  He or she can stop strategising and agonising.  Stop worrying and chasing.  Instead, opening up, expanding into the space where you can flow with what feels good and right in the moment.  Flow with an open heart, without fears and limits.  Knowing that you aren’t <insert your name> so there is no way that anything could happen to <insert your name> that would be any kind of problem.

If you were playing the part of a character in a film, you’d flow with the script, going where it takes your character.  It would be nonsensical to do anything else.

What if that’s how life is meant to be lived?  Instead of restricted, personal-agenda based behaviour; letting go and flowing with the script.  Being open to the guidance of the director, of the great awareness that guides your behaviours to the things that make sense to do?  Instead of affirmations, expectations and divided loyalties; being outcome-free. 

Just in it for the journey.  The experience.  The experiment.

The experiment in letting go.  Join me?

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An Anxiety Case Study https://www.butterflyeffectcoaching.co.uk/blog/an-anxiety-case-study Mon, 25 Feb 2019 19:45:06 +0000 https://www.butterflyeffectcoaching.co.uk/?p=3558 The post An Anxiety Case Study appeared first on Butterfly Effect Coaching.

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This understanding of life can have implications for those experiencing anxiety.

With kind permission from Bradley, I’m sharing his story about how our work together has made a significant difference to his anxiety.

When Bradley came to see me, his initial thought was that he needed me to help him with his business.  At the time, the business appeared to him to be the cause of the anxiety.  He told me how it was always on his mind.  How anxious he felt about what he ought to be doing.  During family time and on holiday, the business would be on his mind and a feeling of sickness would be in his stomach.  He felt as though he wasn’t able to be ‘present’ with his family, because there was always something to be worrying about.

While we have discussed his business many times, that wasn’t how we started off our coaching relationship.  Instead, we discussed a very different way of understanding life.

Inner peace and anxiety

Fortunately, Bradley was open to the direction our conversation took and his understanding shifted.  He uncovered the realisation that the feelings he experienced weren’t directly linked to the circumstances of his life, and thus he started to become free of those feelings.  He also began to understand that changing the circumstances wasn’t the answer.  It’s not possible to secure a feeling in something external because that thing is insecure. We don’t have control over life’s events, and believing that we should is a source of suffering.  As his understanding of these things shifted, he began to notice a calmness that pervaded in the background of all situations.  Even the most challenging. 

The understanding he’s taken on board has been life-changing for him.  He no longer spends all of his time stressing and worrying about his business.  When he is with his family, he is able to be fully present with them.  Holidays are now a joyful time to be treasured. 

These changes haven’t happened because his business is different.  It’s changed because he now knows that regardless of what is going on in his business, or his life; fundamentally, he is okay.  Who he really is cannot be damaged by circumstances, so it doesn’t need to be vigilantly protected.  With this realisation, the anxiety he’d previously experienced just doesn’t have the hold it used to.

I was talking with Bradley recently about the various challenges that he had undergone in the last month.  He’d had a really hard time, with some extremely serious stuff.  Both in his work and home life.  The kind of circumstances you wouldn’t wish on anyone.  I was overjoyed when he reported that, even though there was nothing pleasant about those circumstances, he came through each one knowing he was okay.  In the past, he would have experience incredible anxiety, sickness, anger etc.  Nowadays he feels different.  Anxious feelings do pop up from time to time, but when they do, they pass quickly.

Bradley acknowledged that he didn’t have to do anything to feel better while these recent circumstances unfolded.  He just knew deeply, that who he is is okay. 

That’s what I love about the work that I do.  There is no strategy to follow, no steps to take.  Just something to understand and know.  For some, their strategy for preventing anxiety may involve avoiding certain things.  The nature of Bradley’s life means that there are difficult circumstances that cannot be avoided.  And he now takes these moments in his stride.

If you are experiencing anxiety, there is a belief of ‘not-okayness’ present.  I can help you to see life from a different, rather startling perspective, that brings this idea of ‘not-okayness’ into question.  From there, anxiety just can’t have the same grip it had before.  That doesn’t mean that it goes away entirely, never to be experienced again.  It means that the experience of it is less of a struggle and usually much shorter lived.  The desire to be free of the anxiety (which causes the suffering) isn’t as strong and the whole experience is more like a small bump in the road, than an insurmountable obstacle.

If you’d like to know more about this, please get in touch.

Want to know more about how I can help? Drop me a line or give me a call. A successful coaching relationship depends upon a great rapport, so it’s important to talk. I want to get to know you, see inside your world and we can assess how we’d go from there!

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More about the Scotland Retreat! https://www.butterflyeffectcoaching.co.uk/blog/more-about-the-scotland-retreat Fri, 22 Feb 2019 17:51:41 +0000 https://www.butterflyeffectcoaching.co.uk/?p=3537 The post More about the Scotland Retreat! appeared first on Butterfly Effect Coaching.

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Below you will find a few videos which answer all the finer detailed questions you may have about coming on the Scotland Retreat.

If this is the first you’ve heard of it, hop on over to post giving the when, why, where and who first (link below), then come back here for the finer details.

Scotland Retreat, 26th – 29th April 2019

If you prefer to read than watch videos, we have a downloadable PDF which answers the same questions.  

Trossachs Gathering- pdf

AOB

If you have any questions now answered in the videos (or PDF) please get in touch and ask.

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Can’t get no satisfaction? https://www.butterflyeffectcoaching.co.uk/blog/cant-get-no-satisfaction Tue, 12 Feb 2019 11:51:42 +0000 https://www.butterflyeffectcoaching.co.uk/?p=3484 The post Can’t get no satisfaction? appeared first on Butterfly Effect Coaching.

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Here’s a question for you to consider, hand on heart.

Are you seeking satisfaction anywhere in your life?  In your work, your relationships, family, social life, with your body, your health?  Anywhere at all?

Do want to tweak, change and improve certain areas, believing that you’ll be happier when you do?

How’s that working out for you?

This is how I lived a lot of my life, and it didn’t work out so well for me.  Over the years I came to realise that it didn’t seem to matter how much tweaking I did, or how much I tried to control the circumstances of my life, I never seem to be able to get to the point where it felt “finished”.  I never got to the point where I could relax, content that my external circumstances were now perfect.  Not only that, I couldn’t imagine a point where I ever would!

Realising this sounds like it could create a feeling of despair or depression.  My experience has been the opposite.  Realising this has been freeing.  What a relief; to know that the satisfaction that I seek cannot be attained.  Turns out, what I really wanted, was relief from all the seeking!

Contrary to what the famous life coaches might report that “If you believe it you can achieve it”, or suggestions that you should “Live your best life”, which imply that happiness is to be attained through getting what you want. I’d like to suggest that happiness is attained by refusing to believe that anything that you don’t already have can make you feel a certain way. 

What is the one thing that is consistent in all of your experience? 

You. 

The experience that you seek is not separate to you.  It is subjective.  It cannot create a feeling within you.

I’m not talking about learning to love what we have, or making an effort to be grateful.  I’m simply suggesting that we question the whisperings in our minds that “This thing is what you need”, or “When you get that, you’ll be content”.  Believing that we’ll be happier at some future point, immediately creates a condition of lack in the only time we ever experience – NOW.

We experience happiness in the now as often as we forget to want things to be different in the future. 

 

Want to know more about how I can help? Drop me a line or give me a call. A successful coaching relationship depends upon a great rapport, so it’s important to talk. I want to get to know you, see inside your world and we can assess how we’d go from there!

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Obsessed with success https://www.butterflyeffectcoaching.co.uk/blog/obsessed-with-success-2 Tue, 05 Feb 2019 15:35:16 +0000 https://www.butterflyeffectcoaching.co.uk/?p=3270 The post Obsessed with success appeared first on Butterfly Effect Coaching.

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Life is a quest.  A quest for success. 

Life is a quest.  A quest for success.  A quest to be the very best version of yourself that you can be.  To strive and become good at your trade, to earn money, respect and recognition.  To be accomplished, an expert in your field.  And ultimately, to earn lots of money, feel secure and happy.

Life is a quest.  A quest for success.  Because anything less is a failure.  Anything less means you are not good enough, lazy, lacking.  Means you aren’t liked or respected.  Means you lack significance and your life lacks meaning. If you’re not successful you’ll be poor, unhappy and insecure.

If we promote the first paragraph, we also promote the second.  Through making success the most important thing, we are suggesting that to be anything less than your best, would be to fail.  And that failure is unacceptable.  How does that feel, as a way to live your life?  Does pursuing success still feel like the path to happiness?  Or does it feel like a lifetime of tension, having the jaws of failure snapping at your heels?  Of constantly having to work harder, be better, excel, just to have self-acceptance.

 

quest for success

I’d like to table the notion that success is not the be all and end all.

Not wishing to take anything away from anybody who has worked hard, achieved, excelled and so forth.  If that’s what you’ve done, that’s great.  If you have done it, you’ll already know that it’s not the path to lasting peace and happiness.  It can’t possibly come from there, because there is no end point to the pursuit of success.  Each individual ‘success’ will come with the temporary relief and happiness of not seeking and feeling the absence of whatever you were trying to achieve.  But after the dust has settled, the attention goes back to comparison, to lack, to a need to be better, to be good enough.  Lasting happiness simply can’t be found there.

Instead of striving and excelling to find happiness, how about looking at life in a different way.  How about exploring the understanding that ‘who you are’ does not need to be successful to be whole, perfect and happy.  You already are, you’ve just been looking in the wrong direction.  With this different understanding, of who we really are – our true selves, we are free. There is no such thing as failure.  Only the unfolding of experience.  That unfolding may still see us pursuing careers, education, sporting prowess and so forth.  But we aren’t doing it to get anywhere, or to avoid anything.  We are doing it for the love of it.  We have nothing to lose and nothing to gain, we can just act from love.

Imagine, if all your actions were for the love of it – work/sport/education becomes a beautiful expression of your true nature.  Let’s look there.

Want to know more about how I can help? Drop me a line or give me a call. A successful coaching relationship depends upon a great rapport, so it’s important to talk. I want to get to know you, see inside your world and we can assess how we’d go from there!

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Making peace with the past https://www.butterflyeffectcoaching.co.uk/blog/making-peace-with-the-past Sat, 26 Jan 2019 16:47:57 +0000 https://www.butterflyeffectcoaching.co.uk/?p=3363 The post Making peace with the past appeared first on Butterfly Effect Coaching.

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making peace with the past

Do we want to make peace with the past, or do we want Peace, full stop?

Our culture teaches us that our past experience can stay with us; affecting us in our day to day, as ‘emotional baggage’ or in patterns of behaviour that have become our habits.  Our culture also teaches us that, in order to be free of this baggage, or these habits, we need to heal first.

While it is not untrue that the past can affect our behaviour, the need to heal is brought into question by a shift in understanding which happens when we explore the nature of life’s experience.  But let’s explore the accepted paradigm first.

“Treat others as you wish to be treated”

A message that many of us have grown up with.  A message that makes total sense.  When we aren’t suffering, that’s what we tend to do and so we expect the same in return.  So, if someone treated you in a way you didn’t wish to be treated, it would have felt as though your wellbeing was on the line.  The rule wasn’t followed, you suffered and felt insecure.  If your security and wellbeing felt like it was under threat, you would have felt uneasy emotions.  Learnt at a young age, the beliefs that come with that experience can be painful and can pervade into later life. 

Exploring how you feel about the past with a view to healing it looks appropriate.  But what if the peace is available now?  Without digging up old traumas?

If what you really want is Peace, you can have it much more easily than you think.

This is the point where we look back to the original statement, about the change in a fundamental understanding.  It starts by questioning who we really are.  If it looks to us like who we are is limited to a body, a mind, a set of thoughts and memories – as our culture teaches us, we need help.  If we look to the core of our being – our essence – who we really are, we notice that we are whole and perfect.  Untouched by the past and secure in the here and now.

Peace is at the very core of our being.  When identification with the memories drops away, we experience Peace. 

When we forget

When we forget that Peace is at our core, we think we need to do something to attain it.  With that belief, we’ll suffer.  When we suffer, it’s harder to remember to treat others as we wish to be treated ourselves.  Understanding the nature of this experience can help.  If you want to explore the past, consider this:

The person who mistreated you must have been suffering themselves.

That doesn’t excuse it or make it forgivable.  But it does go a way to helping you to understand their behaviour.  From understanding, Peace can rise. 

Think about your own behaviour; at some point in your life, you’ve done something to another person that you aren’t proud of.  However mild, or minor.  Why?  You were suffering.  You believed you needed to defend or promote yourself and your actions followed that belief. 

Finding Peace

Peace is so close that there are no steps you need to take to find it.  While you can and may decide to go on a journey back to your memories, to view them in a different light; it’s not essential. The truth is that Peace is your essence.  Without the mental running commentary of how thing ‘should’ be, Peace is experienced.  You’ll have experienced this many times when thought spontaneously dropped away and Peace returned.

Don’t just take my word for it.  Try it out for yourself.  Go on the journey from you to You.  Close your eyes and ask yourself, “without the belief of how things should have been in the past, how would I feel?”

Delving deeper

This blog post is a scratch on the surface of this understanding.  To really embody it, it’s important to keep exploring.  Please look through other blog posts.  Videos are coming soon on YouTube too.

Want to know more about how I can help? Drop me a line or give me a call. A successful coaching relationship depends upon a great rapport, so it’s important to talk. I want to get to know you, see inside your world and we can assess how we’d go from there!

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Living the alternative dream https://www.butterflyeffectcoaching.co.uk/blog/living-the-alternative-dream Fri, 18 Jan 2019 14:48:09 +0000 https://www.butterflyeffectcoaching.co.uk/?p=3320 The post Living the alternative dream appeared first on Butterfly Effect Coaching.

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living the dream

Your life could feel like a dream.  Everything unfolding one thing after another, in a way that makes a sort of sense as you observe it.  You could find yourself looking upon the circumstances that present themselves without judging them as ‘good’ or ‘bad’.  Perhaps the odd sharp word you hear, directed towards you, could be met with the empathy of knowing the other person must be experiencing some kind of suffering to be acting that way and there’s no need to take it personally. Maybe you’d appreciate being in the here and now, knowing that the future will unfold as it will.  You could live the alternative dream, feeling the peace and gentle ease that comes with not taking the idea of you <insert your name> as being someone that needs to be protected and promoted.  Knowing instead that you are free to play with the experience of life and all its ups and downs.  What a joy that could be!

If that’s not how you live already, would you like to? 

Or, does it look like peace and happiness comes from securing a particular set of circumstances? Perhaps in your work or business?  Maybe from your partner behaving a particular way, or finding a partner?  From having better health, or a more active social life?  From finding your purpose and meaning in this world?

It’s a strong pull, isn’t it?

Years ago, when I first stumbled upon the realisation that I could live the alternative dream, it felt as uncomfortable as it felt intriguing.  The ego kicked back and promoted strongly the idea that the things on my life shopping list were the route to happiness.  It warned me that if I found happiness without achieving those things, I would be unhappy later.  Crazy, right?! 

You see, the ego and society combined, have us hypnotised.  Locked in the idea that happiness is to be found ‘out there’ somewhere.  If we work hard enough on ourselves and our circumstances, we might eventually find it.  But if we’re not vigilant, destitution and despair will surely follow.  The fear keeps us firmly in the rat race.  Until it doesn’t.  Until somewhere along the line we hear a whispering that there is another way.  We become tired of looking ‘out there’ and the whispering gets louder.  So we turn slowly and gently, looking in a new direction.  In an inward direction.  Back before we say anything after the words “I am”, to the pure essence of who we are.  That’s where peace is found.

When you’re ready, you’ll start to turn inward.  When you do, you may like to have someone to help you navigate the path.  It can be a challenging path.  The ego is a slippery little sucker and the societal conditioning doesn’t stop.  Rather than going and living in the woods by yourself, or giving up on everything and sitting at home in your pants, it can be helpful to join others on the same journey.  I’m one.  When you’re ready, I’m here and happy to help.

Want to know more about how I can help? Drop me a line or give me a call. A successful coaching relationship depends upon a great rapport, so it’s important to talk. I want to get to know you, see inside your world and we can assess how we’d go from there!

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Why New Year’s Resolutions are hard to keep https://www.butterflyeffectcoaching.co.uk/blog/why-new-years-resolutions-are-hard-to-keep Mon, 31 Dec 2018 09:03:10 +0000 https://www.butterflyeffectcoaching.co.uk/?p=3292 The post Why New Year’s Resolutions are hard to keep appeared first on Butterfly Effect Coaching.

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New Years resolutions

New Years Resolutions are famous for falling by the wayside come February/March.

The gym membership that gets used in January, then not so much month on month. The tidy house that within a few months is back to where it was before. The resolve to stop smoking, that becomes “a cheeky one” here and there, until you are back to 20 a day. The clean eating regime, that gets interrupted by chocolate binges after a few weeks.

The problem is that if we approach a New Year with a sense of self that we think needs to do better in the world, we’ve failed before we’ve even started. If our new behaviour is driven by our ego’s desire to make us ‘good enough’ then that same ego is going to be the thing that hobbles the whole crusade.

Take, for example, the resolution to eat healthily. Makes sense, right? To have a healthy body, and therefore a sense of wellbeing for the personal self that we see ourselves to be, we need to eat well, and not poison ourselves with processed food, alcohol and caffeine. Our ego is rooting for us to get healthy, as that will temporarily improve our sense of personal wellbeing. However, a personal sense of wellbeing is inherently insecure when you closely examine it. Our bodies are not indestructible, so it doesn’t matter how hard we try to be healthy, we cannot secure our health. It also doesn’t matter how nice and kind we are, or how successful, or beautiful – we cannot secure being liked or respected by others. It doesn’t matter how rich we are, and how many amazing experiences we have, we’ll always be able to find greener grass somewhere else.

So this personal sense of self, the ego, is up and down feeling insecure and lacking in various ways. There is always a ‘more, better, not this, something’ that is lacking. The ego seeks to cover over the sense of lack in order to feel better and will use certain behaviours to achieve a temporary ‘hit’ of relief from that insecurity. On this occasion, a chocolate binge is the hit of choice. “I’ll feel better if I eat that chocolate”. Well, temporarily, yes. But, long-term, no. So the very same thing which is pointing us in the direction of health and wellbeing being important to us if we want to be okay also seeks the things that hinder health and wellbeing (which, by the way, is also not the route to long-term happiness).

So we’re doomed to fail!

Well, not really. All we need to do is take an alternative perspective to the ego’s sense of self. To stop looking at ourselves as this separate person, with a personal agenda, and other separate people to compare ourselves to. To start looking deeper into the sense of “being” that makes us who we are. That sense of “I am” that precedes anything that we think is important. If we trace our sense of self back to there, all feelings of lack drop away. We can see that who we really are needs nothing to be any different or better in order to secure the self.

With that knowledge, we can return to the sense of the personal, and explore whatever makes sense to explore, with a curiosity for where it will take us. Without the idea that whether we are good enough or not is at the end of the rainbow.

That is how we can be ‘successful’ at New Year’s resolutions. By having nothing on them.

Want to know more about how I can help? Drop me a line or give me a call. A successful coaching relationship depends upon a great rapport, so it’s important to talk. I want to get to know you, see inside your world and we can assess how we’d go from there!

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