A different approach to this important topic…
The model doesn’t work
Despite raised awareness, employee wellbeing and mental health aren’t great in our culture at the moment. Could it be time for organisations to consider a shift in their approach?
The current paradigm supports the idea that we need the conditions of our life to be a certain way to feel okay. Whether that’s workload and deadlines, company morale and support, circumstances outside the workplace, quality of sleep, time spent on leisure and self-care. Everybody buys into their particular idea of what these conditions ought to be, so if circumstances aren’t as desired the person will experience stress, pressure, worry, anxiety etc.
Furthermore, conditioning received from many angles over many years creates the experience that is lived now, so habitual patterns of thinking that can date back to early childhood experiences can have a huge impact on a person’s experience of their circumstances. Hence why one person can respond entirely differently to pressure, despite both people having the same aptitude for the job.
I work with employees to change their understanding of where wellbeing comes from. A particular set of circumstances isn’t necessary, but believing that it is creates the experience of suffering. It puts them under more pressure as they try to change their circumstances, fit in more self-care activities, meet their deadlines, impress their bosses.
I also gently work with employees to help them understand that their map of the world may be clouded by unhelpful beliefs about themselves and show them how to start breaking free of these restrictions and fears. This is all done extremely respectfully, and in a “content free” way, unless the individual wishes to share specific memories, we don’t go digging them up.
It has been my honour and privilege to be invited into businesses in Essex, London and around the UK since 2009 to help businesses and organisations shift their understanding of where wellbeing comes from. To free their employees from the tyranny of the belief that “out there” needs to be a certain way for “in here” to feel okay. The freedom that this new understanding brings, is not only a weight off their shoulders. It can also make way for more creativity, better relationships, clearer problems solving, authentic leadership and more!
How I work
I do things bespoke to your company or organisation’s needs. I can do workshops, talks, group facilitated sessions, 121 coaching face to face (South East Essex only, currently) or over Zoom. I’d love a chance to have a chat with you about how this could work for your organisation. You can get in touch here.
The brief introductory video below is an opportunity to explore this approach.
Want to know more about how I can help? Drop me a line or give me a call. A successful coaching relationship depends upon a great rapport, so it’s important to talk. I want to get to know you, see inside your world and we can assess how we’d go from there!